Are you happy the way people assume things when you say anything. I was talking to a friend yesterday and we were merely exchanging pleasantries when I asked him, “Say, why don’t you participate in ant fun activity like we do huh?” He merely shrugged his shoulders and said “I don’t want to waste my energy on arguing when I’ll be judged for literally anything I say.” I was about to argue and prove him wrong then and there, tell him that it’s wrong and he’s being lazy, when I realized that subconsciously, I judged him. I mean I hate the way people just make assumptions without thought and here I am doing just the same thing. Afterwards I came Home and instead of looking for a psychological or scientific explanation I analyzed my behaviour towards others.
I was horrified to discover that the thing I despise the most is the thing I do almost always (subconsciously) and I felt awful about it.
I now came to the realization that human brain is accustomed to want more. Our brain wasn’t always like this though, it’s because of your surroundings and influences received by us in each and every minute or even second of our life. If you are, However, curious to know about the effects of influences on our life then, check this blog. So because of negativity in your surroundings, you are likely to think more negative.
That’s what self help books help with. They usually all tell us the same ideas but we still read them because we need them To be positive, to be focused, to be happy. The amount of discontentment in our society is increasing at an alarming rate. So to feel happy and positive we tend to read these books, watch videos or read blogs.
Our subconscious mind takes control of the way we behave all the time. So literally every human Does criticise someone or the other, I even if they themselves don’t realize what they’re doing.
So before making disgusting faces at someone else and saying how you despise that person for being quick to judge, look at yourself first. The only difference between you and that other critique is that you are not verbally critcising someone/something whereas the other person is thinking out loud and being honest.
Thank you! 😃