The indirect way of saying things is so cool right? We get to express what we want without actually saying anything.
We save ourselves of the trouble of speaking our mind out, which in many cases might not be something which the other wants to hear.
We all fear the reaction that we might get, or maybe some of us just think it’s way more impactful and powerful if we’re actually giving people the silent treatment. The silent message.
But did you ever pause and wonder that people might misunderstand your frustration (which does not concern them) for anger directed towards them. Your sadness and unwillingness to talk as your attitude and disinterest in them. Your forced smile which according to you is an epitome of politeness, might be interpreted as your awkwardness around them.
We all know this, it’s not something new, yet every time we just have this weird thought which is nothing but fake promises made to self- “I’m sure they will understand. They know me.” .
You think they know you. But do they?
Do you even know yourself?
If you do know yourself then you must be completely aware of the amount of time you took to get to know yourself first. Then how can you be so confident that another person will understand your silent message?
In some cases people do interpret it right, but there are also times when it can be a total disaster and ruin a healthy relationship. Why give the person the benefit of doubt? Stop doing this to your relationships. People you care about deserve better.
Some Conversations are hard, I know, but honest conversations can sometimes, erase some otherwise “strong” relationships ( which is ultimately for the best, becuase like why have relationships where you can’t even be your true self, right?)
While other times they save relationships from completely collapsing. So do yourself a favour, and try to be honest with people you care about. Talk to them, tell them how you feel instead of just freezing them out of your life.
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